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I wonder sometimes if everyone who writes is born with disappointment.

It seems like you must know you will suffer, you will wait, you will be frustrated and angry and ignored, again and again and again before you will ever - possibly - know a moment of success. If you weren't born disappointed already then how would you handle that? How would you handle being told no so many times in your life?

How would you keep going when it seems like there is every reason to just stop?

My agent sent me a very nice note today. She is still trying to sell the "stories" - still hoping to find the AK flying book a home. But now, at seven months after she started, I am realizing that the likelihood of this book seeing a future in print is slipping away. In the months after I signed with Writer's House I was giddy with having an agent - with having someone who knew good writing from bad - tell me that I was a good writer; that my book was wonderful. And then after revisions and rewrites and reconsiderations, after it came together into a form that satisfied us both and she told me she was starting to send it off to editors then I was thrilled beyond belief. But I kept that to myself, of course. I told everyone who asked that this was just another step - a necessary but still small step - in the process.

I said I wasn't going to count my chickens. Officially, I'm just not a chicken counting girl until I've seen those eggs hatch.

But you can't help yourself, not as a writer. You can't help but think that after all those years of research and writing and telling everyone over and over again that you think this matters, that you think you are good, that you think someone will love it, well you can not help but think that finally the moment will come to you. Finally you will win.

All those years of believing have gotten you to the very last step; to the place where you can see that final door and so you think surely it will happen, right? Surely it will happen for you.

And yet seven months....seven months is a long time for an agent to try. I know what this might mean. I am a realist and that means I have to change the way I think about this book. I have to see that maybe it will just come back to me and I will be the only in the world that ever knows it. And I will have to finish another book and try again and send it away. And maybe another book again after that.

And maybe that will just be who I am.

I hate the word luck - I have for a very long time. Who you are and what you do should never come down to luck. I've had friends live because they were lucky and die because they weren't. My brother and I were in the sun the same amount growing up; he was lucky and turned brown, I wasn't and got cancer. And then my husband got sick and no one knew why. Bad luck maybe, the doctors said. And then it killed my father. His luck ran out they told us.

And my son. Don't even ask me how I feel about his luck.

I know - I know - that luck does not live in this house. And the more I wait on one book and read about what happens to so many others, I know that luck plays an odd and measureless process in publishing. And I don't believe in it.

I don't believe in anything that I can't make happen on my own.

And now I have to sit and I have to wait and I have to hope that still - still it might happen. I might get lucky.

But I am just not the girl who believes that and so waiting is hard for me; the waiting is always hard.

I promise to write about good books in the next post - this writerly angst is probably more than most of you can stand to hear.............

comments

Just because this book isn't selling now doesn't mean that it will never sell. A writer has to look at the big picture, the long haul.

A manuscript is like a spec house. An unsold manuscript doesn't just go away any more than an unsold house does. It sits there waiting. Some day, the economy changes, the area's population changes, the area becomes more desirable and the house sells. Maybe by that point it needs a few updates or maintenance, but it sells.

The same thing frequently happens with manuscripts. Something will change. You will sell something else and an editor will say, "Do you have anything else you're working on?" Or for some reason the topic you were writing on will become really hot and you'll have a manuscript ready to go.

If this book doesn't sell now, all that means is that it goes onto a back burner while you work on other projects. It will always be there, ready when you need it.

Seven months isn't that long, actually, nor are the seemingly endless amounts of revisions and additions. It took my agent two years to find the right editor for GOTHIC. In hindsight, it was worth the wait and endless revisions. At the time, tho, I felt like it would never sell and I would be condemned to an "always the bridesmaid" writerly life.

I think the flip side of the ability (or, more honestly, expectation) to deal with disappointment is an equally strong ability to have hope.

My two cents, of course.

And I forgot to add my favorite August Wilson quote, sent to me by my Dad: you are entitled to the work, not the reward.

Having just come through this, and having just received my own manuscript back, and having shoved it into a file and having thought... "Oh, I'll start revisions in, say, October..." hoping to give myself some time to bandage my wounds and stop wincing...

I know.

One of the gifts of getting through the editing process once is the belief that revision can change things, that you can still retain the integrity of your work but revise it to fit within some invisible and unknown parameters no one can explain. It can be done, and you may find that your work is even more amazing after a revision. But, it is an awful and heavy road before that moment of epiphany occurs.

This is not too much to hear, and you know where to find us if you need readers.

Self-publishing. If your book is wonderful, it isn't less so because some clueless publishers can't see it or don't care. You're letting the opinions of people whose opinions aren't worth your anguish get you down.

All of these are very useful comments and I do appreciate them - part of why I post on this writerly stuff is because not being physically surrounded by writers means that a lot of times I just don't know how my own situation compares to everyone else's.

So it is helpful to hear what others think/know/believe.

Having said that though, well - right now it is just a wee bit tough. I am working on two other books; I am moving forward; I am getting that I need to be patient. But don't expect to like all that, you know? :)

And Dan I am thinking about what you said. I'm talking to my agent next week and I'll get a clearer picture of where the book stands. Then I'll decide where it goes from here.

And let everyone know of course!!

And thanks TadMack - for everything.

Colleen, I admire and envy all of you who have taken the step from "I could write, if I had the time..." to being authors, even if - so far - unpublished ones. You are far braver than I, and I salute you!

It makes me sad to hear YOU so sad and down.

Don't stop.

Keep writing.
Keep hoping.
Keep trying.
Keep believing.

Thanks guys - this means the world to me...... :)

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